✸✸When you spot someone you fancy across a crowded
room,mustering upthe courage to go over to them is only half the
battle – what will you say once you’re there?
Ten years of Friends
1） muster up 英 [ˈmʌstə ʌp] 美 [ˈmʌstɚ ʌp] 鼓起;召集，振作
Negging – a favourite of pickup artists and other shady characters – is
basically an insult disguised as a compliment.
Where can we muster up more soldiers?
I have every reason to say that I love Friends so, so much. No one knows
what this excellent work left in my heart when I had watched the whole
ten parts over. Me? Neither. Every time when I have a absolute hard time
in the unbearable boring he-teaching you-listening class or be
embarrassed in front of my dear friends, I overlooked the six
unbelievable geniuses, think for a while, then I repack my love and
confidence for life and find that true meaning of friendship is that
they are laughing, not my fake comfort.
There are no doubts that they are amazing. So many interesting and
funny things have been taken place between them, phoebe’s incredible
talent for definitely weird fun which I appreciate most, Rachel’s beauty
with pretty lovable ways of talking, Monica’s harsh attitude for
everything that make her unpopular forever, while you are really prone
to do as she told you to, and let me say that is a damn kind of charm
leading to great Chandler love for her, Ross’dinosaurs? Haha, he is a
little too much hypocritical but 100% cute, sexy and? Strong, ha, Joey
baby who is a very terrible actor but surly he has a kind and pure
heart, yes, he slept with too many women, however, how a hot girl can
ignore him when he show his “ how are you doing?”, Chandler is
certaintly worth of each of my respect for the gift to make jokes which
are fresh to me ,for that is not Chinese style but very American enough,
that is new, I want to know and learn all the ways of making people
laugh aloud or sweetly, no matter where they come from or which rank
they are in……
You may not mean to neg a woman, but a compliment might veer into that
territory. For example: ‘You look so cute! My gran has the exact same
dress!’ or ‘I adore your little snub nose.’
Actually, I’d rather use silence to express all my love for them,
since language is so lack of power and the fun I depicted is so less
compared to the happy things that happened among them. I won’t cry when
I saw it’s over though I just feel a little bit sad for departure with
them. I know I have had enough. I know friends more now and I believe
for a man like me, friends would be the most important thing in my spare
life, yes, incluing my love for my darling, my relationship with my
✸✸A line that makes one person swoon might make another cringe,
so it’s a minefield really.
Goodbye, Joey, Monica, Chandler, Ross, and my beautiful Rachel, of
course, my damn weird Phoebe. I love you all, my friends.
These are ‘compliments’ that will earn you a cold silence from a woman.
She’s not going to notice the ‘cute’ part; it doesn’t count when she’s
worried that her dress makes her look matronly or that she has an
✸✸However, researchers from China claim to have discovered what
to say to give yourself the best chance ofwooingthe object of your
affections: use a metaphor.
The following are some sentences I extracted from Friends:
There are plenty of other things you can compliment her on that won’t
have the added effect of making her feel insecure.
1） woo 英 [wu:] 美
[wu] vt.求爱，求婚;争取…的支持 vi.求爱;恳求
You absolutely have to tell her, at least the time is right. That’s when
They wooed customers by offering low interest rates
Oh, God? The orange juice comes out of my nose, but it was totally worth
Don’t make a joke of it
She was totally at my mercy.
Tell my son, I love him!
Flirting can be scary at the best of times. You’re making yourself
vulnerable when you do it, and it’s perfectly natural to want to offset
that with humour. You want to tease a woman instead of complimenting her
– but being earnest is probably the best approach when it comes to
compliments. Women recognise sincerity and are grateful for it.
✸✸According to scientists from the University of Electronic
Science and Technology in China, womenprefermen who use
metaphorical languagetocompliment them.
The room would be disappointed if it didn’t get sex. All of the other
honeymoon suites would think it was a loser.
1） prefer to 英 [priˈfə: tu:] 美 [prɪˈfɚ tu]
The room expects room.
Instead of ‘I’d tell you how cute you look today, but of course you
already know that hahahahaha’, try a simple ‘You look really lovely
today, by the way.’
I still prefer to play in defence.
Don’t get religious on me, ok?
I’m totally drunk with the power.
That way, she won’t have to smile awkwardly or wonder whether it’s a
joke or not.
I just realized that I can sleep with my eyes open.(don’t wanna hear
✸✸They claim that compliments like “Your eyes are morning dew” or
“Your smile is a naughty goblin” are better received than literal
expressions like “Your lips are so sexy.”
You could cut the sexual tension in here with a knife.(somebody want
sex, with whom he wants to have sex)
Oh, Boy Scouts could’ve camped under it!
Do compliment her on things other than her appearance
✸✸Because every woman wants to be likened to a goblin.
I said I think you are hot and now I’m embarrassed.( when say hi to a
hot girl the first time)
Tell him to e-mail me at
When complimenting women, it’s good to keep in mind that women are
likely to be wary of comments on their physical appearance, and are much
more receptive to compliments on their intelligence, wit, or sense of
humour (In fact, they are almost never appreciated for the latter, so go
ahead, tell her that she’s one of the funniest people you know).
✸✸And they concluded the same when men complimented women’s
possessions, so it’s apparently better to say “Your garden is a sea of
flowers” than “Your door is very strong.”
Don’t judge me. I’m only human.
I don’t wanna be one of those wives that says “you can’t go to the
game.”, You have to spend time with me!” so, just realize it on your
own.(Monica’ s the boss always)
If you do make a comment on her physical appearance, the golden rule is
to keep it general. ‘You look beautiful,’ to your date, NOT ‘you have a
very sexy neck.’ No matter how sexy her neck is, pointing out one
hyperspecific area of her body can feel gross and objectifying.
✸✸“The findings confirm our hypotheses that in
acourtshipsituation where compliments serve as a sexual display of
mate quality, women show a preference for metaphors, particularly novel
ones, in verbal structure,” the researchers wrote.
Yeah, marriage stinks! I mean if you want to see a man gain weight and a
woman stop shaving? Get them married.
1） Courtship 英 [ˈkɔ:tʃɪp] 美
Both Logic and Math are taking a serious hit today.
Don’t be abrasive or grudging
They were more interested in courtship and cars than in school
Sadly many men adopt a slightly hostile or abrasive tone when they
compliment women. It’s another defence mechanism that you have to let go
Oceans of classic words and dialogues are laughing and touching which I
couldn’t take them all, but I would suggest you : go find《Friends》and
spare some time enjoying. You bet love it, my friends.
✸✸Apparently using metaphors implies men are creative and
intelligent. And not just a bit poncey and weird.
Remember, the purpose of a compliment is to make somebody feel better
about themselves. Do it with a smile on your face and in a pleasant
tone: don’t say it as if you had a gun to your head.
✸✸They also hypothesised that women prefer to be complimented on
their appearance than possessions and were proven correct. The
researchers didn’t assess whether a woman might possibly prefer to be
complimented on her intelligence, quick wit or hilarious sense of
People don’t notice what you’re saying as much as the tone you’re saying
it in, so a good compliment is completely wasted if it’s delivered
✸✸It’s important to note that the study size was small – just 116
women took part – and may only reflect Chinese culture:
Finally, remember how powerful compliments can be
✸✸“The fact that Pragma (practical) and Storge (friendship-based)
love style attitudes constituted 59.65 per cent and 45.61 per cent of
the participants in our study may reflect both the participants’ sex and
Chinese culture,” the researchers said.
Ask most people and they’ll tell you: yes, they remember the best
compliment they ever received. Even if it was five years ago, in the
club loo and it was a drunk compliment from another girl.
✸✸“This finding is consistent with the report that Chinese
women, relative to their western counterparts, view love as a
companionship and place marriage over love.”
✸✸In order to reach their conclusions, 116 female Chinese
students were shown a series of pictures of men and asked to rate them.
✸✸The pictures were sometimes shown with compliments that the men
would supposedly say when visiting their new girlfriend’s house (they
were randomly assigned).
✸✸But if metaphoricalchat-up linesare supposedly signifiers
of intelligence, men shouldbe wary ofusing clichés like “Do you
have a map? Because I just keep on getting lost in your eyes,” “Did it
hurt when you fell from heaven?” and “Your legs must be tired because
you’ve been running through my mind all night.”
1） chat-up line 英 [tʃæt ʌp lain] 美 [tʃæt ʌp laɪn]
Forget witty chat-up lines and splashing on the aftershave.
2) be wary of 英 [bi: ˈwɛəri ɔv] 美 [bi ˈwɛri ʌv] v.提防
People did not teach their children to be wary of strangers
✸✸You’ll likely be met with an eye-roll at best and a drink in
your face at worst.